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Can being angry make you sick?
Unfortunately, it can. Negative emotions can ruin your health. This is something that’s long been known by alternative healers. The mainstream medical professional has also come to realize that the mind exerts a powerful effect upon the body.
This is why forgiveness is so important. No matter what someone has done, it’s important to forgive them. Even if they’ve done bad things repeatedly.
In this article, I’m going to describe specific exercises I did, which helped me forgive a treacherous, deceitful person. I’ll also tell you about a homeopathic remedy created by a British medical doctor, designed to help you forgive when you feel a sense of injustice.
Why it is Important to Forgive One Another
It’s not so much a matter of letting the person (or people) who hurt you off the hook. It’s more about not letting them occupy your thoughts. As someone else once pointed out, if you think about someone, “This allows them to live in your head rent free.”
Forgiving someone allows you to move on with your life. It’s really the only thing that can free you from this situation, once and for all.
Can Getting Angry Make You Sick?
We seem to be living in an age of entitlement. Those who abuse others typically suffer from personality disorders, such as malignant narcissism. I could write volumes about this condition. But I’ll save it for another time. Someone who fits this description believes they’re always right.
So you probably won’t get a sincere apology. Even if you do get this person to mutter the words, “I’m sorry,” it may not be sincere. Or, it may be preceded by a long list of your shortcomings.
This means you have to forgive, even without an apology. It’s not easy. But you can do it. I had to.
Can Being Angry Make You Sick?
Bear in mind that I’m not a mental health professional. So I’m writing about forgiveness from first-hand experience. The narcissist in my life, believe it or not, was someone I met at church. Apparently, she was pretending to be my friend, while secretly plotting my destruction. (Or at least my departure from that particular religious community.)
Malignant Narcissism and Relationships
This was a big lesson for me. I definitely needed more discernment going forward. People have to earn your trust, even if you meet them at church. I now know that just because someone looks holy doesn’t mean they relate to others honestly.
This experience was difficult, on a number of levels. The worst part is that it hurt my children. We had tried to remove them from the world, so they could have a good Catholic upbringing, in a more sheltered environment. I was homeschooling. So this religious setting was also our social circle. At the time, leaving seemed the worst thing that could happen. However, in a strange way, it turned out to be a blessing.
I won’t go into details. But the level of treachery was off the charts. Other people got caught up in this bizarre dynamic. However, God turned all of this into good. Here is a book I’ve written on this experience.
How to Forgive and Move On
People with personality disorders won’t be held accountable. Instead, they blame you for what they did. Arguing is pointless. That’s because they’ll have a ready-made excuse, to justify their actions.
So the trick is to move on and forgive, without an apology. Tell yourself this can be done. Will yourself to do it.
There were specific steps I took, which helped me pardon the person who caused my family so much grief.
- Willing myself to forgive.
- Specific mental exercises that helped me forgive her. One of them included me imaging what she did, and then forgiving her repeatedly. I’m not sure if a therapist would approve. But it seemed to work for me.
- Praying for her.
- Viewing her in a new light. This, perhaps, was the most powerful of all. I learned to develop compassion. I know her life is a mess. Inside she’s a wreck. Otherwise, she wouldn’t be trying to “solve” this problem by hurting someone else.
- Realizing that justice will happen. Someday, she’ll be held fully accountable.
Negative Effects of Anger in Health
Meanwhile, if you need to forgive someone, remind yourself that you’re not really doing this for the person who hurt you. You’re doing it for yourself. If you don’t, the anger will destroy you.
Both mainstream and alternative medical experts recognize the damage anger can do.
The mainstream site WebMD explains how anger can hurt your heart. One study found that angry people have a 19 percent increased risk of developing heart disease.
Can Too Much Anger Make You Sick?
Dr. Edward Bach, MD was a famous British medical doctor. He practiced during the early 1900’s. He devoted his career to exploring the mind/body connection.
He believed negative emotions could make you ill. In fact, he recovered from “terminal” cancer after finding a new purpose in life. He developed this disease early in his career. His prognosis was grim. Confronting his mortality, he threw himself into research. He hoped to leave a legacy.
However, instead of dying, he recovered. His cancer went away and he became a homeopath.
The result of his research is a line of homeopathic remedies to address specific emotional conditions.
Bach Flowers Anger Management
Dr. Bach created 38 remedies. Each is designed to counter specific emotions, such as anger, jealously, resentment and anxiety. They are made from flower essences. They are considered more gentle than regular homeopathic remedies.
Bach flower remedies are easy to use. Unlike conventional homeopathy, you don’t necessary need to work with a professional. That’s because it’s easy to pick a remedy, based upon your emotional state.
According to the British-based Bach Centre, one of the best remedies for people who feel anger, along with a sense of injustice, is vervain. Or, people who feel they simply cannot forgive or forget may benefit from willow. Even though Dr. Bach died in the 1936, his remedies have never been more popular. They’re now available in health food stores and online.
These statements have not been approved by the FDA. These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Women who are pregnant or nursing should not take homeopathic remedies unless directed to do so by a healthcare professional.