This is a healthy lifestyle site. I want to tell my readers about the benefits of organic food, and natural remedies. I also want to spread the word about potentially dangerous chemicals, added to many beauty products and household cleaners.
Workplace Bullying and Stress
However, I can’t ignore the fact that something else may be hurting your health. That’s being in a toxic relationship or situation. Oftentimes, among adults, this happens at work. Unfortunately, workplace bullying is an epidemic. Currently, 27 percent of employees have experienced abuse on the job, according to a 2014 survey conducted by the Workplace Bullying Association.
The amount of chaos generated by this behavior is astronomical. The scope of this problem is mind boggling. It accounts for countless days off and sick time. Earlier, the WBI released figures showing that, in most cases, workplace bullying involves job loss. About 75 percent of the time, the battered target is either fired or resigns.
I mention workplace bullying because this is an area that’s being studied. But what I’m writing about is not limited to employment. These same dynamics are found in social settings, in volunteer groups and even in church. Believe it or not, bully behavior is a huge problem in nursing homes.
Effects of Bullying and Stress
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We live in an age when narcissism and similar personality disorders seem to be increasing. These character disorders are often seen in adults who bully others.
Some social scientists believe this sort of deviant behavior is definitely on the upswing. In any event, volumes of material are now being written on anti-social conduct. (Abusing someone at work, or in a social setting, is definitely on the anti-social spectrum.)
As someone who’s had first-hand experience with a deceitful and manipulative person, I know all too well that this way can cause immense destruction. I hope my experience can help others. If so, if I can help just one other person, then some good will have come from this ordeal.
Bullying Related Stress
If you find yourself targeted by a malicious person, the best advice I can give is to, somehow, remove yourself from the situation. It’s probably not going to get better. (This discussion is limited to non-marital relationships.)
If you’ve caught the wrath of a workplace bully, it’s time to polish your resume. Most of the time, this doesn’t bode well for your future employment at that particular organization.
Meanwhile, I personally believe it’s essential to learn as much as you can about malignant narcissism and similar character problems. This is what helped me finally realize what I was dealing with. This gave me the knowledge I needed to mop up the mess, and put my life back in order.
In my case it was relatively easy. I was dealing with a deceitful friend. So all I had to do was walk away. (But there was still that mess to clean up.)
If you’ve read this far, chances are you’ve been dealing with a narcissist. I’m not talking about normal run-of-the-mill narcissism. (We all have a little of this.) I’m talking about a malicious destructive personality, someone who’s gone out of their way to hurt you. These are the types of individuals described in the book, In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People.
Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse Stages
Learning about how character disordered people operate helped me bounce back. My encounter with a narcissist was extremely destructive. She infiltrated my life, and my other relationships. I realized I had to not only distance myself from her, but from a number of others as well. This involved a lot of big changes. I had no choice, if I wanted to extricate myself from a highly toxic dynamic.
But it wasn’t all bad. The experience with a female narcissist taught me a lot. I want to use it to help others understand what’s going on, since we personality disorders seem to be on the upswing. (This is something that’s even been documented by social scientists.) So I wrote a book about the phenomenon on meanness, specifically as it’s seen in some women. It attempts to answer the question of, “Are Women Getting Meaner?“
Narcissists Are Bad for Us
This is a natural health site. But I’m going to be adding articles about narcissism. That’s because narcissists are bad for us. I hope this site can become a resource, a place for people to learn more about this all too prevalent scourge of our times. Also, I want to shed light on the fact the problem of female narcissistic abuse. When it’s directed against other women, it typically takes the form of relational aggression. This is a sinister attempt to socially isolate someone. Because manipulative people tend to be clever, it usually works.
Anyway, if you’ve gotten to the end of this article, it’s important to know that recovery from narcissistic abuse seems to happen in stages. The last one is forgiveness. Sincere forgiveness sets you free. This is when you finally evict the narcissist from the space he or she occupied in your head. If it seems as if forgiveness is next to impossible, my book below has some first-hand tips on how to pardon the unpardonable. In fact, my experience led me to write a book on forgiveness called, How To Forgive a Malicious Person.
Here’s the good news. Your happiness returns, once you free yourself from the narcissist. Better days are coming.
I am not a licensed mental health professional. So all statements you read here are written for discussion purposes only. I’m also limiting this discussion to non-marital relationships. Since I have no formal training in counseling, I am not qualified to discuss anything related to marriage.